October 2, 2023

Each month there are National Health Observances. My goal is to highlight one each month for a devotion. For October, the focus will be on bullying.

The definition of a bully according to the dictionary is a blustering, mean or predatory person who, from a perceived position of power, intimidates, abuses, harasses or coerces people, especially those considered unlikely to defend themselves. That’s a mouthful! Certainly no one should experience the negative consequences of this behavior and statistically more than 1 out of every 5 students report being bullied.

Let’s look at how bullying can affect someone. Students who are bullied at school often suffer a loss in self-esteem and confidence. Ability to learn is negatively affected and often school is dreaded. Physical symptoms, like headaches or stomachaches, can occur along with mental health issues such as depression or anxiety.

Bullying does not affect just those on the receiving end. Those who observe another person being bullied can experience helplessness, anxiety and fear. Bullies themselves may also suffer higher rates of physical and emotional health issues.

As Christians it’s obvious that bullying would be against the tenets of our faith. Leviticus 19:18, as Jesus says, is the second greatest commandment, “…You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” And Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear.” I’m sure there are plenty of bible verses to support that bullying is harmful and sinful.

For those who witness bullying, there is a choice to be made whether to act or not. Silence is really not acceptable when it comes to bullying. Galatians 6:1-2 says, “My friends, if anyone is detected in a transgression, you who have received the Spirit should restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness. Take care that you yourselves are not tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” When we choose kindness, acceptance and inclusion, we can ease the burdens of others. Here’s the part that’s always challenging – the individual doing the bullying needs our love and grace too.

Prevention of bullying is perhaps the best approach. Part of Bethany’s dismissal each Sunday states, “Embrace healthy dialogue that promotes unity over division.” We each can demonstrate kindness, acceptance and inclusion and show a willingness to talk about these principles. There are some practical ideas that anyone can do on the PACER’S bullying prevention website: www.pacer.org/BULLYING/.

Peace,
Janet, Director of Pastoral Care