“Christmas Reflections from a Father” by Pastor Nate

I’ll never forget my daughter’s first Christmas. My first child, Evelyn, was born in the middle of November, so by Christmas time I was keenly aware of what it was like to care of an infant. And because of this awareness, I became very skeptical of certain details in the Christmas story.
For example, it has often been said that “the little Lord Jesus no crying he makes…” Impossible. Experience has taught me that a baby’s job is 60% crying. I refuse to believe that Jesus never cried as a baby.
It’s also been said that the night of Jesus’ birth was a “Silent Night”. Well, that makes no sense; the birthing process itself is anything but silent. And then the very first thing a healthy baby does is cry. A Silent night? That makes no sense.
And finally, and this is definitely the detail that I find most frustrating: Mary, Joseph, and Jesus all slept in heavenly peace on the night of Jesus’ birth? Really? On the night that my daughter was born, when she wasn’t keeping me awake with her crying, I was up worrying about her sleeping position; worrying about those strange noises she was making; worrying that every night would be this sleepless. I do not understand how anyone could “sleep in heavenly peace” on the night their first child was born.
Obviously, for the sake of this post, I’m being a little dramatic, but what’s interesting is that none of the details I pointed are actually in the Bible. And so I think we need to admit that what we say about Jesus’ birth and what the Bible says about are two very different stories. There are a lot of extra details that have been added on over the years, and details really matter.
The Gospel writer Matthew’s version of the Christmas story doesn’t focus on the baby Jesus. There are only 7 verses in Matthew’s Gospel that actually talk about the birth of Jesus. I know that I have a tendency to over share when I talk about the birth of my children but if you ask me Matthew UNDERSHARES. “She bore a son and named him Jesus”—that’s all Matthew says about the birth of the Son of God.
But maybe, that’s because Matthew is focusing on some other details…
What Matthew does provide us with is details about Jesus’ family – and the messy, complex family situation that Jesus was born into.
The text tells us that Joseph had discovered that Mary was pregnant and so he made plans to leave her quietly.
This was a merciful decision on Joseph’s part. In those days, if Joseph had chosen to report it, Mary would have been stoned to death. And, truth be told, even leaving Mary quietly would not have presented a great future for Mary. She would have been left to be a single mother and thus completely shamed and shunned by society.
It took an angel to convince him, but Joseph did decide to stay with Mary and in so doing Joseph was choosing to allow himself to be subjected to the shame and ridicule of society. “Oh, there goes Mary and her illegitimate son. Oh, there goes Joseph, he wasn’t Man enough to leave his cheating wife behind.”
To say the least, Jesus was born into a complicated situation.
I don’t know about you, but I feel like I’m in a complicated and messy situation now. I doubt you’ll disagree with me when I say that 2016 has been one of the messiest years on record. Whether it was the police shootings, or the presidential election, or the drastic increase in hate crimes, or the reality of Russian hackers, or the mass shooting in Orlando, or the crisis in Syria, or…or…or…this year has been horrific, in every sense of the word.
Things are so jacked up right now, I’ll be honest, I’m not even really sure what to do. I have this deep sense that I really need to be more involved and more vocal and standing up for the needs of those on the margins because there’s just so much need out there right now. And yet there just doesn’t seem to be a good path forward.
But as we all struggle to make sense of current reality we live in- messy as it may be — I find so much comfort in remembering the very specific details that Jesus was born into. Because it reminds me that Jesus choose to enter into the mess.
God sent his only Son to earth at a very specific moment in history, to a very specific family situation and although these are not the details that we usually think of when we talk about Jesus’ birth, these details matter. It matters that Jesus was born a Jew in an occupied land, ruled by the Romans. It matters that Jesus was born to a single mother and an adoptive father. It matters that because of this unique family situation Mary, Joseph, and Jesus would have faced constant bullying, public shaming, and systematic injustice.
All of this little details matter because they tell us that God cares about messy situations like these. All these little details matter because they remind us that God chose to send Jesus into a situation that was filled with oppression and injustice and ridicule and shame. And so we can be confident that God is those people now who are having to face the terrors of the pandemic or the struggles of unemployment or the horrors of hate crimes in America and everything in between. We know that God is with us and we know that God is with them because God has a habit of showing up in messy situations.
But this promise also has an implication for all of us. God chose to send Jesus into a messy situation, and so we too are called to find ways to be with those who are suffering and shamed.
Just as Joseph chose to remain with Mary despite what people were going to be saying; we too will need to make some hard decisions in the days and weeks ahead. As Christians we are called to be like Jesus – we are called to enter into the messy situations that exist in this world.
As Christmas arrives we will feast and open presents and celebrate and sing about silent nights. But what if, this Christmas, rather than focusing on the usual details of the holiday, what if we took some time to think about who God is calling us to be with?
This Christmas, let’s celebrate how God is with us, but let’s also acknowledge how messy things have gotten and lets look for opportunities to be with the bullied and oppressed and shamed among us.







